How To Change Mindset From Negative to Positive
MINDSET… We all have heard the cliches’ around mindset, “surround yourself around different people, remove negative things
and associations, read daily, meditate,etc…
Although all of these are great suggestions that work, how many really follow through? I could tell you all of these things and give you claim to fame that they will fix your mindset…but the truth is finding what the real issue is will be the only way.
I will give you a few different things you can do that will help you have a more positive outlook on life.
#1 Find the Issue
So what is the real issue why you can’t seem to have a positive outlook? When I talk with most people asking this question, there are a lot “I should have done this, If I could just do that, I wish I could turn back time and change this, etc…
Many people are still living in the past dealing with past issues in the present. I won’t say that I don’t understand because I do, I have been there myself. Some situations cause a significant amount of pain, and it is very difficult not to think about them and hold onto them. Your mind has a file cabinet of different scenerios most relating to prior experiences. This is how we make decisions in the future. This is also the very thing holding you back in most cases. We will try to justify our actions by making general statements like” I have seen this before, or I have expereinced that before… and it maybe true to an extent but no circumstances or situations are exactly alike. This thinking is actually activating just cause of repeating the past. We all wish we could have done something different, as the saying goes” hind sight is 20/20″. The reality is you can’t, there is nothing you can change, fix, erase, etc. It is an experience that you had to have, in order to give you strength for your future.
Once you have identified the issue and realize that you can not change it. This takes complete honesty on your part of what the real issue is, accepting personal responsibility is also key. Don’t concern yourself with things you can not control. Now you are ready to move forward to the next step of release.
#2 Releasing the Issue
The most difficult part! Forgive. You have to learn forgiveness, I know this sounds cliche’ and I may sound like a tree hugger activist or something but it is the truth. Forgiveness will help you move on. Sometimes we need to have that conversation in our own minds forgiving ourselves for prior decisions. If not it can linger for a long time causing long term effects in your own mind.
Finding your inner peace can really help with this. At moments of extreme stress, anger, gloominess etc… Take a few moments and get back centered with yourself, a walk around the block, deep proper breathing, exercise etc. Give your self an outlet for your emotions, make it a habit. Not only will this help with your emotions, you will help your body as well.
#3 Changing Your Habits
Instead of watching television, maybe choose a good book to read. Honestly, I feel television really is a waste of time. There are so many different subliminal messages that come across the television it could really change your viewpoint of how life is really supposed to be. Murder, riots, drama, controlled media etc. Whatever your constantly expose your mind to will become your perception and your perception will become your reality. Especially if you are finding it difficult have a positive outlook on your life. Do fun things… Go hiking, camping, fishing, running, etc. Changing your habits are very important for not repeating the same cycles in your life. No matter what your current situation is, you have the ability to change it. Again, I know this first hand.
The moment I removed television and started reading things I was pasionate about, I notice things that would normally consume my thoughts changed. In fact not only did I begin to learn more about my passions, but I was able to help other people with theirs. To me this is one of the most satisfying feelings with helping someone else.
#4 Change Associations
Yes I know I said this was a bit cliche’ but it is true. There is a saying that if you hang around nine broke people you will become the tenth. If there are negative people around you, maybe you need to change your associations. There is nothing wrong with pulling back from people that maybe holding you back, remember this is your life not theirs. Only you can determine what is right for you. When I was younger I used to hang out with people that weren’t the best influence, I thought it was cool. My prior limiting beliefs had my believing that, that was were I was supposed to be. For so many years I was lead to believe I was nothing more than my surroundings, then I woke up. My children were the eye opener from me. I never wanted them to have the same self limiting beliefs I had at one point, and I knew everything had to change. So, I changed my surroundings, my associations, my knowledge base and my income. Although I lost many “friends”, it helped me realize that if they couldn’t understand why I changing for the better than maybe they weren’t real friends after all.
#5 The Shift
The air smelled better, the grass looked greener, life has a purpose. The shift is taking place in your outlook, things just look different. You realize that your life is greater than what you have thought and that you have a true purpose. So many just kind of go throught the motions, not really paying attention as to what is around them. Changing your mindset to positivity won’t be understood by some, they won’t understand why you no longer get upset, angry, or even give no thought or time to things that you have no control over. You begin to understand that things will happen, and how you deal with them determines the outcome. Your mind is just at peace, you are more present. You are a magnet, people will graviate and be attracted to what you are. When you decide that you no longer want to continue in the current surroundings you are in, those people that were attracted to you under that magnetism, will start to repel like a magnet does.
One of my favorite books “The Power Of Now” by Eckhart Tolle describes exactly how to get more present. This book helped me alot and I know it has helped hundreds of thousands of other people as well. Things became less complicated…
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